[SCA-BMDL] Fw: Re: courtesy

[Raven]

Forwarded with permission

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> Hrefna;
> 
> I've never found these behaviors rude. Whether the
> project is for a specific purpose or just to keep oneself
> from fidgeting (a practice often mistaken for rudeness),
> there is no major crossover between paying attention to
> someone else and using one's hands. Having said that,
> it appears that Ms. Phillips, in her role as the current
> Dear Abby, is someone who is discomfited by anything less
> than the full and undivided attention of any audience. This
> is not always an unreasonable expectation and courtesy would
> dictate that anyone should be aware of the preferences and
> foibles of others around them, and then to decide when or
> if it is appropriate or counterproductive to ignore them in
> favor of one's own comfort or deadlines. For me, anyone
> who thinks that knitting, embroidery, piecing work, etc. is
> rude behavior, is often far more self-absorbed than I'm
> comfortable with, and I try to not inflict myself on them.
> The conflict of styles in behavior is counterproductive for
> both of us. In t
> he interests of full disclosure, and knowing that other
> people who know me well will read this, I admit, freely,
> that I am not above jerking the chain of someone of this
> ilk who inflicts themselves on me.
> 
> Liam