[SCA-Dance] The Creepy, the rude, and the weird

[Donna]

Like Fish, I have no problem with being physically guided through a new
dance; in fact, I'm grateful for it.  A strong lead is always welcome in
both SCA and modern dances, like contras and squares.  I would never dream
of hijacking someone else's class, though I may ask the teacher for
clarification if I don't understand their explanation of a step.

This may be a no-brainer, but please remove any accessories that could
become dangerous missiles when doing more vigorous dances!  Like chain
maille pouches.  And Viking neckaces.

cheers,
Freydis

>
> I partially disagree with physically showing somone the right placement in
> the dance. I'm the kind of person who must be shown physically how to do
> things or they make no sense to me, and this sometimes (often times) means
> them saying, "Fish, like this!", taking hold of me, and repositioning me.
> I'm not offended by it, but I know some others are, so it's always best to
> ask permission unless you know the person's okay with it.
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> What turns me off, etiquette-wise, is when everyone is larning a dance and
> a know it all tries to take over teaching in the middle of somoene else
> doing so.  Quietly explaining something to your confused partner is one
> thing (I've done it and seen it done several times) but being loud, boorish
> and disruptive about it is another.
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> I hope this helps!
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>                 Lydia de Berce, called "Fish"
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> "I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to
> say it."
>                    S. G. Tallentyre, The Friends of Voltaire
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> From: Niki <janeeve2001 at yahoo.com>
> To: sca-dance at sca-dance.org
> Sent: Tuesday, July 21, 2009 8:39:34 AM
> Subject: [SCA-Dance] The Creepy, the rude, and the weird
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> Hi there,
>
> We've all been there and seen it - some dancer that either creeps us out or
> has such bad manners we feel we need to sterilize after dancing with them -
> or so weird we want to avoid dancing with them at all costs.
>
> So, I'm wondering:
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> What did they do?
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> What do you wish they had done instead?  Please list the obvious too.
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> I'm doing a class at Pennsic, where I'm going to try to educate some people
> who just may not know better.  But, I want to make sure I have an
> appropriate amount of material as well.  It focuses on ECD, but I'm also
> interested in hearing other stories.
>
> Already on the agenda:
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> Hand Holding - low (of course) and no death grips
> Eye contact - no bug eyes, staring at a persons chest does not eye contact
> make, and no staring the person down
> Reverancing - if nothing else - straight backs
>
> Lady Jane Milford, OM
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