[SCA-Dance] The Creepy, the rude, and the weird

[Andrea Collis]

Oh, and I'm not fond of lords who hold your hand and rub the top of your
hand with their thumb.

On Tue, Jul 21, 2009 at 3:45 PM, Rebecca Mikkelsen <
mikkelsen_rebecca at hotmail.com> wrote:

>
> This thread is bringing up all kinds of "ewwww" memories ;)
>
>
>
> Rebecca
>
> > Date: Tue, 21 Jul 2009 13:18:38 -0400
> > From: ladycaitriona at gmail.com
> > To: sca-dance at sca-dance.org
> > Subject: Re: [SCA-Dance] The Creepy, the rude, and the weird
> >
> > These are some pet peeve areas off the top of my head. As with everything
> > else in life, YMMV.
> >
> >
> > Hygeine - We all have to scratch our nose from time to time, move our
> hair
> > out of our face, we suddenly get something painful in our eye. It
> happens.
> > And Pennsic is hardly the most sanitary place on earth. But if there's
> > anything you can avoid doing that would spread germs to or otherwise
> gross
> > out your partner, then avoid it.
> >
> > Don't actively pick your nose or pull things out of it, or dig around
> inside
> > your ear or mouth or whatnot, and then expect people to want to touch
> your
> > hand. If you have to cough or sneeze, do it into your elbow or sleeve,
> just
> > like they taught you in the swine flu panic. Use the antibacterial goo
> after
> > visiting the portajohn, wipe your hands off if you've been eating the
> greasy
> > fries across from the dance barn, wash off the blood if you've been
> moving
> > bodies.
> >
> > Brushing your teeth and taking a shower every now and then doesn't hurt
> > either.
> >
> >
> > Grabbing and dragging - If I'm struggling with a new dance and already
> > confused or frustrated, the last thing that helps me figure it out is for
> my
> > partner (or the dance teacher) to grab my body like a doll and point it
> > where they think it should go.
> >
> > Gentle guiding by the hand, arm, or elbow is one thing. Grabbing me
> > forcefully by my shoulders, back, legs, waist, or hips(!) and roughly
> > dragging or shoving me somewhere as if I were a mannequin is another
> > entirely. As I often find myself saying to the children of friends, "use
> > your words".
> >
> > This may be a regional or personal space difference as it doesn't seem to
> > bother some people at all, but when someone does it to me, I do
> everything I
> > can to make sure I never dance with that person again. To me, it's just
> > plain rude.
> >
> >
> > Flirting - A little flirting during dancing is encouraged. Sometimes even
> a
> > lot of flirting is encouraged. However, if the person you are flirting
> with
> > isn't flirting back, then perhaps you should stop. I think dancing is way
> > more fun with flirting, but not everyone does, and that's just life. Not
> > everyone wishes to flirt with a stranger, and that's just life.
> >
> > I've known multiple people who will not dance with specific dancers in my
> > region because those dancers' level of flirting is so aggressive and over
> > the top that it makes some people violently uncomfortable. And yet I've
> > known other people who think those dancers' level of flirting is the
> cat's
> > meow. It's very personal; err on the side of being conservative until you
> > know someone better or have danced with them enough times to know their
> > style.
> >
> >
> > Expectations - We've all been in that situation where we want to do a
> > favorite dance, but the set is one person short. Wait, look! A new person
> > over there on that bench! They would love this dance, I'm sure!
> >
> > If someone who wasn't planning to dance gets up to help you complete your
> > set, be courteous to them. They have done you a favor. If they have told
> you
> > from the outset that it's a dance they don't know, and you ask them to
> join
> > anyway, then don't get angry with them if they get confused or don't do
> it
> > perfectly. They already told you they didn't know it! Use it as an
> > opportunity to help them learn this great dance, and you will now have
> yet
> > another person to dance it with. Use it as an opportunity to be a jerk,
> and
> > they will simply think you're a jerk.
> >
> >
> > My several cents...
> >
> > Caitriona
> >
> > --
> > Heather Cougar
> > Caitriona of Greenwood Isle
> > ladycaitriona at gmail.com
> > Seneschal, Barony of Carolingia
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