[SCA-BMDL] courtesy

[Ben Cogan]

It's a sign, and signs are useful things.  I don't find it rude.  The
sign says that I'm here as a passive participant.  In our set of
constraints I find it to mean that the person is there because they
want to be, they want the social interaction and camaraderie, but they
are not intending to actively participate in the meeting.

I suppose I would find this rude in a professional setting, where it's
even more blatant than just day dreaming and doodling in your note pad
through a meeting.

Cheers,
Brandubh



On 7/17/08, Raven <hraefnn at yahoo.com> wrote:
> Hi all,
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> The following letter appeared in Dear Abby.  Many gentles in this barony and the SCA knit, embroider, etc. at gatherings where the main activity has nothing to do with their handwork.  Do you find this rude?  Why or why not? Please state if you indulge in this habit.
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> Hrefna
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> P.S. Since some people may have their lives threatened by their significant other if they respond with anything other then "Of course it's not rude, Dear", those folks can email me privately to have their true opinions posted anonymously.
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> DEAR ABBY: Is it rude or inconsiderate for a person to knit, crochet or piece a quilt while attending a meeting or other gathering? -- CURIOUS IN THE SUNBELT
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> DEAR CURIOUS: Although I may get some argument about this, I do think it's rude. When someone is attending a meeting or a social gathering, it is considered good manners to give the speaker or other attendees your full attention. And while I expect to hear from readers who say they can "multi-task," to do so sends the wrong message.
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