[SCA-AE] SCA Pack Rats

[Rob Baldassano]

If I may....


For those with hordes of clothes....

Why not see if you can get interest in a "Garb completion workshop?" 
Gather your friends, and a few extra sewing machines (for the event only), and have them help you finish up that pending garb. 

If it turns out that there are things you can't wear for what ever reason
* you lost to much weight to wear it 
* you changed your persona
* the children have grown up already and can't wear such a small outfit, unless it's for their baby toe
etc. 

Then consider donating it to your local gold key. 

I am SURE that the gold key officers would be greatful for the donation to the cause. 
or you could do a SCA garage sale. (i.e. Pavilion sale)

That way you could garner money for your unwanteds, and still help yourself out without feeling overwhelmed. 

I know I get overwhelmed by life ALOT. so I look at one room, one thing in the room, and ask myself "what can I do with THAT?"
sometimes even that gets complicated, because of where "That" has to go, and what I need to do to get "that" where it belongs, because "that" belongs somewhere that requires major clean up or organization. 
It's like chasing a rats tail, the target never stops moving.

--Eirik 
Iflicted with packus-ratus, and organizo-destructus

 
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From: L.J. Rodriguez <rufinasca at gmail.com>
To: discussion at aethelmearc.org
Sent: Wednesday, September 23, 2009 12:06:09 PM
Subject: Re: [SCA-AE] SCA Pack Rats

that's about as intelligent as saying to an alcoholic that they just need to
stop drinking. or telling someone who is having a panic attack to just calm
down. or telling someone with ADD that they just need to settle down and do
their work. or telling a depressed person to just cheer up.

yes, an alcoholic makes the choice to drink, but there is FAR more than
'choice' involved. it works the same way with hoarding. i'm not talking
about people who are just a little messy, i'm talking about people who just
*can't* get that mess and stuff gone. people who are overwhelmed by their
stuff and don't know where to begin to tackle the problem, and secretly
don't know if they really *want* to get rid of the stuff. it IS their stuff
after all.

it requires help, and help beyond having someone throw out everything for
you. that just provides a blank slate to re-fill. there is little support
available beyond people who want to throw everything out for you, and little
understanding for the problems of the person afflicted.

telling someone that it's all their fault isn't helpful, and in fact is more
hurtful than anything.

rufina, who spent YEARS being told to settle down, YEARS being told to stop
being so lazy, only to find out that it wasn't her fault after all. people
who hoard deserve the same respect and sense of relief. and some help.



>
> Saying you can't do it yourself is not exactly true.  You piled up the
> garb, you made choices to let the room get to that state.  You can make a
> new choice to start to clear it up of the mess.  And, you do it one piece of
> unfinished business at a time.
>
>
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